Once you're dating someone long-term it is almost assured that you will hear this question... Why don't you just have sex.
At least once... Just to find out if you're compatible.
One member of my marriage was actually asked this when we were dating (by a family member no less!). The response i would give?
First, we are not computer software. It's not as though having sex is like trying to install Windows on a Mac. To some degree you will be compatible, at least in the bits-and-pieces.
And if you're not compatible (in frequency, adventure or enthusiasm) in drive then getting married won't be the time when that is first encountered. You will get a good idea what their physical needs are well before you walk down the aisle.
Sure, you could discover that your spouse is a missionary only, lights off, no sounds, monthly, selfish, cold fish in the bedroom, but there will be signs before you get married if you are honest with one another and have practical conversations about sex prior to the ceremony. If it is a mega issue, you will either deal with it then or decide that being absolutely parallel in sex drive isn't the most important thing in the world.
And... even if this worst ease scenario eventuates then you may choose to put aside some of your own needs, mindful that your partner should come into the marriage willing to do the same.
The bible says that a husbands/wives body is not purely their own (1 Corinthians 7:4). They are to be honoured, respected and, yes, shared. With this mindset, i believe that compatibility could be (at worst, somewhat) overcome.
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You can actually install Windows on a Mac. Though, I don't think that it's a good enough reason to have sex outside of marriage.
What do you mean it isn't a good reason? If someone could show me how to install...
Luckily, my wife majored in IT at Uni.
"One member of your marriage?"...
So, Gavin right?
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