Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Waiting reason 1b

The classical reason given to have sex before you settle down with your life partner... You don't want to be crap in bed. And of course, quality must come through experience.

My instant rebuttal is that it assumes that everyone is rubbish the first time they have sex. This may well be accurate, but trouble is, people keep doing it after their first time! If being crap initially was a massive problem then lots of people would quit pretty quickly.

Also, if you're not experienced at having sex, and neither is your partner, then is there really a problem? If so, isn't it one that you would solve over time with joint experience? If you are going to be married till you die then you will have A LOT of time to get "good."

Third, sex isn't (or at least isn't designed to) be a competition. There isn't a medal given out if you put in a great performance. Sex is an expression of your love and commitment for your spouse. You shouldn't be aiming to crack out the chandelier swinging moves to solely impress anyone.

Finally, if sex is an expression of love and more than a merely physical exercise, then wouldn't this override any lack of prowess?

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