In the book I'm reading by John Maxwell he had a chapter on decision making and it reminded me of a system that I've had in place over the last few years in deciding major (or not) choices...
It's the eightfold test... Used to decide everything from whom to date, when to marry or where to work...
I should say that not every test needs to come back in a positive manor to proceed in the affirmative, but it may point you in the right direction.
INTELLECT: Simple... Does it make sense?
Remove all emotion and just consider it rationally. Are you going to be living 150km away fro the person you wish to date and don't drive? Will this job result in a pay drop which sends you broke?
HEART: Simple... Are you passionate about it?
Remove all intellect and go on your feelings. Are you in love with this thing/person? Are you passionate about the profession? Will this get you energised in the morning?
GUT: Simple... What does your gut say?
I believe God gives us our gut feeling for a reason and it makes sense to listen to it sometimes. That queasy feeling you have may exist for a reason. It's the vibe man...
SEXUALITY: Simple... Are you attracted to them?
Doesn't apply in all cases, but our sexuality is a strong motivator in life, so it deserves a say.
GOD: Simple... What does God say about the choice ahead of you?
What does the bible say? Is there a teaching for or against the decision? Is there an underlying principal that can be drawn upon, even though your specific situation isn't mentioned? When you pray, what do you hear God saying?
OTHER CHRISTIANS: Simple... When you ask other Christians for advice, what do they say?
God speaks through his people and we are to filter what we think we hear God saying through the wisdom of his followers (1 John 4:1)
INFLUENCER: Simple... What does the most influential relationship in your life say?
What does you spouse/long term partner or parents think? These people should want the best for you and may bring a perspective that you haven't considered.
NON CHRISTIANS: Simple... What do your non-Christian friends think?
Firstly, you should have some. Second, they can be smart, wise people, even though they don't believe in Jesus. Third, they can bring a point of view which you may be blinded to.
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