Luther was one bad MoFo

You didn't want to get on the wrong side of Martin Luther... http://ergofabulous.org/luther/

FULLTILT your prayers

So... How do you pray?
What do you actually do?

When posed with that question the answer I received and now pass on is the following...

F - Focus. Take time out. Remove distractions.

U - Up. You aren't trying to reach Nirvana, but focus on God. His nature. His promises.

L - Lay it on the Line. When you do the previous point, especially if you touch on the holiness of God, then you should be lead to see the difference between us and a perfect God. We should come before God in honest confession, mindful of the next part...

L- Lap it up! When someone comes before God in repentance, He is merciful and will forgive us. This is an awesome thing which we should revel in!

T - Thanks. We should be grateful for not only what God has just done, but reflect on all the blessings He bestows on us.

I - I want/need/like. Having showed gratitude for both large and small , we can now ask God for what we want/need. BUT, we must be mindful that God is not a cosmic genie, for if a request will not be for our good or for the advancement of God's Kingdom, then a wise God will say no. If it'll be harmful then a good God won't let you win the lottery.

L - Listen. Prayer is not a one way conversation. Whilst we may not see a burning bush, we should take time for God is direct us to places in scripture or formulate ideas.

T - Travel. Prayer shouldn't terminate at Amen. It should be a way of life.

TAWG

Without fail, whenever someone saw the program for the leader's weekend just passed they asked the same question... What does TAWG stand for?

Time Alone With God.

For 30 minutes each morning the leaders were given some time out for just them and God.

One of the great things about weekends away is that you get more space than usual.

But I know, if you're not used to it, then 30 minutes can seem a little daunting. What do you do for half an hour?

On Sunday I walked the leaders through the answer I use when asked what people should do when praying (which I'll outline in my next post).

Additionally, TAWG is useful because it gives the introverts some time out from everyone else...

The elder statesman conversation

Walk me through what you were thinking...
Is that action really wise???
Trust me, as one who's gone through it/see it before...

Churches should be a place where conversations begin with the above statements.

Ideally, they will occur between an older and a younger Christian.

And you can tell when these significant conversations are absent as believers find themselves in predicaments which, when looking back, they recognize could have avoided with a dose of solid advice.

It is the role, particularly of older guys (notice I didn't say the minister!), to develop the culture and cultivate the relationships where this valuable advice can be given and heeded.

The game which changes the attitude

I just got back from a weekend away with the youth group leaders at my new church to plan the rest of the year and do some leadership development (looking at the LEEP and SHAPE ideas and how they fit into our context).

But when my leaders arrived at the location of the weekend they were... underwhelmed.

The hot water was... temperamental.
Some of the mattresses were... less than ideal.
The upstairs windows were... uncooperative.

But one game changed it all.

No matter if it's love-at-first-sight or you're initial unimpressed by a site, two rounds of this game will make you swoon over any location.

The love potion for any location? Hide and seek. In pitch black. Over the entire site.

Especially with adults.

Because adults are crafty.
Adults are sneaky.
Adults are prepared to squeeze into a cramp-inducing space.
Adults get a sick satisfaction from hearing someone you know stumble around in the dark, just feet away from your location, totally unaware.
And scaring people in the dark is awesome.

The vital question which makes church notices work

I've written about church notices announced during the service in the past (you can check it out here). To sum up, I've said that they should be short and involve stories.

Over the last few weeks my thinking has had an important development.

Notices should still be punchy a they should definitely involve stories by people who are personally involved with the notice.

But my appreciation for notices has increased since I now include a vital question.

A question which communicates the whole purpose of, not just notice announcing, but, arguably, church gatherings.

The question is... Where have you encountered God lately?

The reason anything should be announced in church is because we expect God to be at work within the things which are promoted.

And church should be a place where those in the congregation are comfortable enough and encouraged to share what God has been doing in their world, no matter if it is world-altering or something more mundane.

The icing on the cake?
I'd actually WANT to hear these notices and they might BE INTERESTING!

Where should the shame go?

I'm still a virgin...
I've never been drunk...
I've never done drugs...

If a Christian shares the above facts about their life then I can understand the usual reactions of surprise or pity from a non-believer.

But how should fellow believers react?
Do they always admire them?

Unfortunately, when such revelations are thrust into the spotlight, it's not uncommon for there to be two negative reactions...

Shame and pressure.

Pressure for the one who has not, say got drunk, to drink up and shame that the person has, so far, "missed out."

I think these reactions are absolute crap.

The idea that a Christian would try and make another stumble is deplorable.
The concept that someone should be made to feel bad because they have done, and are doing, what THEY SHOULD BE DOING is absurdly stupid.

The few answers I can give for these reactions are either ignorance, callousness or shame.

I suspect it is the latter.

When a person sees someone else, again using the example of drunkenness, "getting things right" then is exposes where they are "getting things wrong."

If virgins and those who abstain from sex and drugs cause shame it should be for those who know better and screw up anyway.

A deserved or miraculous mark?

Today I saw a sign outside a school which wished good luck to year 12's having exams.

It reminded me of an annual debate I have when asked to pray for a student to receive "good" marks.

When it comes to exams I don't ask God to grant miracles.
I ask God to give students the mark they deserve*.

I do so...
First, because I think it's fair.
And, second, I think a deserved mark is a far greater life lesson for the student.

I think a better prayer is one which expands beyond the examination period.

Prayer for prolonged productive study.
Prayer for a healthy balance of school, work, rest and church.
Prayer for positive relationships within their homes and social circles.
Prayer for good management of stress and anxiety.
Prayer for an awareness of God's presence, no matter how well or otherwise they perform in exams.

Otherwise, what message would it send if a lazy student receives the same mark as a student who has worked really hard all year?

* Okay, maybe they can have a couple of extra marks...

EGP

Everyone knows one...
Probably a few.

They are in every church...
Everywhere.
Even yours.

EGP's: Extra Grace People.

There will be some people, who for you, will require an extra dose of grace to be around.

And that's okay.

In fact, it should be expected if your church has more than three people, especially those who aren't identical or less than perfect.

And I can assure you...
for some people...
You will be THAT person.

Ministry NEEDS vs WANTS

I'd love to do xyz, that would be awesome!
Finally, that opportunity has appeared, now we can do xyz!
After working for it for a decade, I think we can finally make it happen.

There are loads of things churches WANT to do.

But a question which must never be forgotten is...
Does the community around you, or whomever you are trying too reach, NEED what you are so excited about?

It would be a shame for churches to invest time and effort just for a new venture to flop because it met an unwanted need.

Beyond the empty tomb

I dressed like the Easter Bunny...
I broke Easter eggs over my head...
I spoke all about the empty tomb...
And I momumentually missed the point.

Easter is not about the empty tomb.
It's not about a vacant grave.

Easter is about Jesus being alive.

This makes all the difference.
Not just an empty cave.

REPOST: Why do we call Good Friday Good?

A day when a completely good...

Absolutely innocent man...

Was betrayed by one of His closest friends...

Abandoned by all...

Endured a fixed court case...

With false witnesses...

With no presumption of innocence...

Held under the cover of darkness...

Prosecuted by the wrong person...

With no defense entered or allowed...

Was beaten...

Spat on...

Whipped...

Tortured...

Overlooked for a murderer...

Who heard those who previously cheered for Him now cry out for His execution...

Who had to personally transport His death implement...

Held to it by five inch long nails...

Stripped naked...

Mocked by those who passed by...

Insulted by those who orchestrated His murder and those who were being killed on either side of Him...

Who endured an excruciating ordeal...

Dying a death reserved for the lowest of low...

The worst of the worst...

A demise off limits to those in power...

A fate, in the eyes of the Jews, for those cursed by God...

Who, in His own words, was FORSAKEN BY GOD...

It was the ultimate injustice.

Before His own mother...

A son...

A friend...

A teacher...

The King...

The Messiah...

The Son of God... was killed.

The day the bread of life was broken and the blood of the Lamb split...

WHY DO WE CALL THIS DAY GOOD???

The only reason we dare label this day good is due to what it achieved. It tore down the division between God and humanity. 

The result of Jesus' death and resurrection is the reason we celebrate Easter and can call Good Friday good.

Multicultural misconception

I've posted in the past about the labels churches place upon themselves, especially the term "regional."

Now I want to touch on another label which churches labour to attach to the front of their name.

Multicultural.

In full danger of bursting bubbles and being run out of the church, I have a declaration...

Most "multicultural" churches are not multicultural.
Just their building is.

Let me explain...

Commonly, "multicultural" churches have a number of services, focusing on different cultures.

For example, they may have a traditional English service in the morning, a Korean service in the middle of the day, and a "youth friendly" service in the evening.

Sorry folks, this is not a multicultural church. It's, probably, not even close.

It's a mono-cultural church whose building houses a number of mono-cultural services.

UNLESS a church has people from multiple cultures thoroughly integrated within the life and services of their church, not just participating in worship activities around one another, THEN it can claim to be multicultural in nature.

Solving all your Palm Sunday related problems

I've never claimed to be original. I will, relatively shamelessly, use, reuse, tweak and "adapt" things I have used and resources I've stumbled upon. 

So, just like I do every year, I lead my new church in the annual ritual of making palm leaf crosses.

And, like every year, I had to beg, borrow and steal palm branches from far and wide.

And, just like 2011, I had an epiphany from last Sunday.

In light of the effort every church goes to in order to pull off an epic palm Sunday, I want to make two resolutions that will rule over Christendom (if I were Pope Francis, this would have been my first announcement).

From now on, every church must do two things...

First, there must be a register of every adequate palm tree in suburban gardens and parks and everyone MUST allow church folk to come and prune them, free of charge, 10 days prior to Easter.

Second, before any church is built it MUST have planted within it's grounds at least two palm trees.

That is all.

Drinking UNTIL...

Sometimes I mention something, thinking I've posted about it previously, only to later discover that the snippet of wisdom has gone unrecorded.

A few days ago I wrote about the partying lifestyle some Christians can have and the unexpected price it can cost them.

During that post I mentioned, from what I've seen, that young adults drink irresponsibly until sometime in there mid-twenties.

Why then?
Because UNTIL...

If you're indulging in the party lifestyle, you'll do it UNTIL...

Until you get over it (how long can you go to the same local, seeing the same people, doing the same things, weekend after weekend?).

Until you see the futility in it (how long can you afford to go out, spending increasing amounts of cash to get drunk, forgetting the end of the night anyway?).

Until something bad happens publicly (you're assaulted, arrested, caught drink-driving or have an unwanted/regrettable sexual encounter).

Until something bad happens privately (you break up a friendship or relationship).

Until your life stage changes and you grow out of it (you get married, you have a child, you get a mortgage, you get a full time job).

As a sweeping generalisation... young adults are partied out by 27. By then you've been going out for around a decade and have hit an UNTIL stage.

Focusing on the good thermometers

From 72 there were 12...

From 12 there were 3.

Not all people are treated the same.

Some you are closer with since you're personalities mesh or you share a common interest. With some you're drawn to them since they hold influence.

This later group can both gauge and move the temperature of the group.

In every church there are a few people who are good thermometers.

In every youth group there are a couple of good thermometers.

Within every youth ministry leadership team there are those who will be able to judge and affect the temperature quicker than others.

In ministry, the people you want to connect with first are these who discern and influence the temperate around them.

With luck, these people will be some of the most valuable relationships in any placement.

You'll be able to bounce ideas off them and avoid land-mines.

You'll be able to receive for honest feedback, from both a personal and communal level.

Finally, when pitching a new idea, when you get the temperature alert onside then the way forward can be much smoother.

When partying bites you in the a$$

Life isn't meant to be boring.
Surprisingly for some, this is even true for Christians.

I don't mind a party (or at least before Hanna was born I didn't!).
I've stayed out late and wandered the streets at all hours of the morning.
For better or worse, I've gone out and had some crazy adventures.

And sometimes it bit me in the ass.

I've embarrassed myself.
I've slept in.
I've been hungover.

But, as far as I'm aware, there's one aspect in life where it didn't cost me. Getting a girlfriend.

But others aren't so fortunate.

For, looking back in hindsight, partying can have a cost which many (especially guys) aren't aware of.

For, given enough time, eventually you'll need to choose...

• Partying or
• A believer who is mature enough to not be attracted to a social-butterfly-party-child.

The sad news? You'll eventually grow out of the impressing your mates by going out until the wee hours of the night (usually around your mid-twenties).

Even sadder? The quality women you'll repel by your lifestyle and never know.

This is the most worst area partying bites you in the ass.

Three questions for your world-view...

This year I'm teaching scripture at a local high school every fortnight for the class who has been split up because they are... overly enthusiastic in class.

Currently they are looking at world religions, with today's class on Hinduism.

To a Westerner. I'll admit, it sounds strange.

As I was talking to the head scripture teacher about the religion, he mentioned the filter he lead the kids through when looking at alternate world-views. 

His three questions were...

Does it make sense? (Is it logical?)
Does it satisfy those who are believers? (What is it's endpoint for life and suffering?)
Can you live it out in today's world?

Improv baptism?

At college this week I had a conversation about baptism and salvation. The person I was speaking to held the belief that you needed to be baptised, in addition to trusting in Jesus, to be saved. 

I disagreed. I said that whilst baptism is a positive thing, it was an outward sign of an inward event which had already occurred (giving Jesus Lordship of your life). I argued that you won't be kicked out of heaven if you've missed getting dunked. Instead you'll be judged on how you've responded to Jesus.

At one point I was asked if I would baptise a kid in my youth ministry... Acts 8:36 style... once they became a Christian.

I had no real answer, but the conversation did bring to mind an impromptu baptism which took place at a camp years ago.

At the time it felt strange but I could never work out why.

My conversation this week cleared up my uneasiness.

When you get baptised, you not only join with Christ and identify with what He has done (like Romans 6 says), but a community of believers.

Thus, without this wider community present, I would defer the impromptu baptism.

You must do this if you want people to change...

Sometimes I post things here as a reminder for myself. This should be one of those occasions.

In theory, it should be a post I go back to often. 

Just to remember.

The memorable lesson which sprung to my mind due to this post?

If you're going to ask people to change you need to tell them two things...

1 - Why the change will be for their benefit and
2 - What staying in the same place will cost them.