When you're in pain people say a lot of things. Some are comforting. Others make you want to swear under your breath.
One thing that is all to common, which I unsuccessfully try to avoid, is the phrase "I know."
The reason this sentence sucks, when someone is in pain, is because, most probably, you don't really know.
You don't know their grief over a deceased loved one.
you don't know their sorrow at a bad diagnosis.
You don't know their heart-break from a miscarriage or divorce.
Why?
Because it is THEIRS not yours.
A response which trumps "I know" is "I can tell" or "I can see."
When you avoid saying "I know" but use one of the later two, you still convey that you're empathizing with the other person's pain, but avoid the implication that you've got a complete grasp of everything they're going through physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually and relationally.
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