As I get older I get increasingly asked about relationships and marriage.
I've blogged about the questions I'd ask a couple before they get hitched here.
As I looked over that list, giving further thought to the traps which can ensnare a couple, the six horsemen of divorce became clear.
Family - How has your upbringing affected you? How do you get along with your in-laws? What are your thoughts about having children?
Expectations - Tying into the topic of family, do you expect that what happened in the home you grew up in to repeat? What do you expect when it comes to housework, provision and in the bedroom?
Values - What do you take into account when you make decisions? Are you aligned spiritually?
Courtship - Are you continually courting your partner? Do you have dates?
Intimacy - This is more than just sex. Are you engaging with your partners love language?
Money - To what extent are you going to share expenses? How will you decide on savings, minor and major expenses? How much will be "your money" and hat will you be accountable for? What is your attitude to debt?
Each horsemen influences the others, and boiled down, nearly all arguments between couples - especially newlyweds - fall into one or more of these categories.
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