The message virgin converts need to hear

Those converting to Christianity in adulthood resemble bigfoot - heard about but rarely seen. 

But, the more I think about later converts - especially young adults - the more I’m convinced that the church must share a very counter cultural message.

If you are still a virgin, you are not a loser. You are lucky.

The reason the church needs to declare this message is because it is the exact opposite message they would have heard.

It’s not unusual, if you’re a virgin into your late teens or into your twenties, to heard, think and feel that you have missed out.

You are a loser.

You are unwanted.

No matter if these voices are from the media, from friends or from within, the longer you remain a virgin, the louder they can be. 

But, what if the church reversed this narrative?

What if, without prying into the sex lives of their congregants, the church spreads a positive message around virginity?

Now, to be clear, no one has the value or worth based upon who, if, or how many times someone has had sex.

For, by telling those in young adulthood that retaining their virginity was a good thing, may drastically transform a mindset that has plagued a person for the best part of a decade.