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Sunday, August 5, 2012

Finger condoms and porn

On Friday I gave my sex spiel at a youth group and I think it went... alright.
Unexpectedly, that morning I got the perfect teaching aid for dealing with porn.

On Friday morning I went to the medical centre to have my infected index finger looked at. I would have let it go, but my darling wife (wisely) insisted I go once I couldn't use my digit anymore and the pain seemed to be travelling down my hand and up my arm.

And I knew what was in my immediate future.

Pain.

Around 15 years ago I had a similar fingernail infection. I still remember the pain that coursed through my body when the doc plunged a sterile shank into my puss fulled, pulsating finger.

But I had to deal with this infection so it wouldn't spread, reach my heart, poison my blood and make my daughter fatherless.

So I went to the doctor and he, surprisingly gently, relieved the pressure and whacked me on antibiotics. Now my finger is close to normality again.

But on Friday I was only starting the journey towards index finger restoration. And one of my aids was a finger condom.

A rubber protector which kept the finger dry and safe (a required device since I was playing messy games with the kids club that afternoon!).

But what could a suspiciously phallic looking rubber coating have to do with beating porn?

Like I did 15 years ago, I'm going to try and stop biting my fingernails (one of the causes of the infection).

I know, biting your fingernails is gross, it makes your hands look ugly, is neither a good source of vitamins nor a satisfying meal... blah, blah blah... I've heard all the reason to quit before. For me, pain is the best motivator to change.

In a way, this is how porn is usually dealt with. After a sharp dose of pain. You are busted... At work... At home... But your wife... My your kids... By your Mum.

And just like my fingernail biting, you will need outside help to overcome it since self control probably won't get the job done (if it could I would have stopped nail nibbling when I was a teenager).

In order to beat my munching problem I will need help. I will need to use the nail-hardening-foul-tasting nail polish and have both a nail file and tweezers handy in order to deal with the hangnails which I would usually gnaw away on.

To beat porn you need exterior assistance like the software from xxxchurch.com or covenanteyes.com.
To beat porn you will need to make changes and kill off the accessibility (if it means disconnecting the pay TV or Internet at home, so be it).
Like I'm doing now, you will need to tell someone what you are doing. 

Hopefully, once my finger recovers in a few days, I will be on my way to cat-like claws.

Tomorrow I'll post what my finger condom reminded me about the effectiveness of real condoms...

2 comments:

  1. True Graham, you and I will need outside help to beat porn. That has been crucial in my life.

    But more crucial has been that I now find in Christ more pleasure and joy and satisfaction than I did in porn. And I think that's the ultimate key, even if I needed help to get me there. And I for one get worried when we don't mention that sort of thing explicitly.

    I'm new to your blog (I put it in my reader about a month ago) but I'm enjoying it. Thanks!

    Andrew

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  2. Andrew,

    Great to have you here!

    I'm glad you added that really important, but previously unstated point (Good pick up). In order to beat porn we need to have our thoughts and actions shaped anew by Christ.

    Hope you keep enjoying the Ramblings...

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